The “Visualization”

For most people, it all started out with the famous book, The Secret. It stressed on the importance of visualizing your future – the dream board. Corny? Yes. But it works. Everyone knows that it is human nature to need constant visualization of your goals. It serves as a daily reminder of future goals, no matter how big or small.

I’m not any different than most. I read the book and thought – genius. Even more than anything, I believe in the Laws of Attraction. If you constantly believe in the good and attract good vibes as well as give them out, I think that you welcome positivism. As oppose to those other people, the ones one the dark side who always see the glass half empty and when someone else is doing good, their immediate response or reaction is only to compare or belittle. As much as times we can’t help but maybe feel a little jealousy (again we are all humans here, right?), it is important to always be happy and wish others well. Hey they’re  just like you, with the same amount of hours in a day to make it happen.

More and more, I realize how having a visual of the things you want helps you to work that much harder for it and not lose sight. I will say that as time passes I’ve had to unpin a few and add a few. That’s life, as time passes, the things that really matter or you truly want change with age.

So print it, cut it, visualize it and go for it.

My Biggest Critic

Me, myself and I. It’s hard not to judge yourself and feel others won’t do same. But the older we get , the more we come to terms with the fact that while we make mistakes, we are not our mistakes. I’ve always said it’s easier to believe the bad than the good – to think you are not a good person because of your many flaws. That isn’t the case. As human beings we are all flawed. It’s how we continue to live everyday despite and with these flaws that makes us stronger individuals.  Even with rejection… after getting a door shut at your face several times  you can think ‘well this is it’. But look at how many amazing people dealt with an insurmountable amount of failure only to come out on top?  No matter how cheesy it may seem, if you want something in life you have got to be your biggest fan, cheerleader and believer in order to make it happen. Of course, we are human and will have bad days – horrible days – that bring us down but in reality… it really could ALWAYS be worse. The great thing about living is that while you’re on this earth alive and kicking, everyday you get another shot. That alone should make you wake up in the morning, thank the Man above for your blessings and seize every little moment.

My Chemical Romance

Alright here I go again relating to yet another movie but I can’t help it. It made me think of a similar situation. Once upon a time a while ago I was incredibly and utterly obsessed with this guy.  Hmmm… let me rephrase that, I was obsessed with the IDEA of who this guy could be. It took me a while to figure out that it was just a romance.

In the movie Last Night with Keira Knightley, her character bumps into an old flame whom she always loved but as life tends to turn out, she was already happily married with a great guy (ehhh watch the movie).  Her character definitely highlighted on a certain aspect of the relationship that seem to have resonated with me. For such a long time, I thought me and this so called flame were meant to be or had some sappy, hopeless notion that everything we went through happened in order to push us together.  Not exactly. He was just one of those people who came into my life temporarily to teach me something. Sadly, I didn’t really know what the lesson was at the time or I did and I was just blindsided by my own yearning to want it to be more. I never actually admitted it out loud but when I heard one of the characters in the movie speaking about it I couldn’t help but replay the memory reel. Basically this kind of romance is the one that is amazing and overwhelming when it happens, but the truth of the matter is that myself and this “love” of mine never did actually spend more than one hundred days together. I don’t even think our days together would add up to a whole month. It was just one of those. It went further into another aspect of our on and off romance (I use to call it a relationship) being that we were great in that single moment. In real life, it seem it was always destined to have an expiration date.  Back then, I couldn’t tell myself that… now I see that if we ever really tried (and we did), the both of us couldn’t really stand alone as a couple. It’s hard to explain but it’s like you need the whole “can’t be with each other but you should and it’s not going to happen” feeling. Again, I didn’t see it then but I learned a lot from this little so called romance… he actually opened up my eyes about other people in my life as well as how a man should actually treat a woman. Most of all, I will never forget the one phrase he used “do not dwell on the past”.

(Of course it had to be from The Notebook)

Granted we don’t talk to each other anymore and it didn’t happen in a bad way, it just did. We died out. I think we simultaneously realized that it was time to let it go.  Of course I hear about him from time to time, I wish him well and I am actually happy for the guy. Still the moral of this post if anyone does read it, is that sometimes people come into your life for a bit and it may seem that they stayed for a while but after that purpose is fulfilled, it is okay to let them go.  You can’t take everything in life personal even when it appears to be, it has a funny way of working out. That and most of all, and this is something A LOT of girls tend to do, do not dwell on one failed romance and make it the reoccurring foundation when meeting new people in your life.

In the words of the awesome Alanis Morissette, “you live, you learn, you love, you learn“.

The Life Test

DISCLAIMER: THIS POST IS NOT ABOUT THE ACTUAL POSSIBILITY OF BEING PREGNANT  🙂

Earlier today I was on the elliptical (hate the gym but que sera sera)… anywho I saw this commercial about the common EPT test.  As we all know, it only takes pee on a stick and in a few minutes to know whether your future will change or not. It may be a weird thought but also made me wish we had a life indicator that would just informed us right away with the results when presented with the many tests we have to succumb to in life.  If it only it were as easy as peeing on a stick…

But just like a little stick can give you the results of something that can change your life, so can mistakes. Mistakes lead to experiences. Experiences lead to knowledge. While the negative can trickle to something positive, it’s not an easy road to take. I have talk to people who have gone through a series of events that can make anyone want to give up, but then it is these same individuals who remind you that it can always be worse. That you cannot let an event(s) in your life dictate who you will be forever. It’s not a simple task because 99 times out of a 100, it is always easy to believe the bad about yourself as oppose to the good. Easier to take the wrong road as oppose to the right which ironically always tends to be the hardest one. Still despite all this, life wouldn’t be as amazing or worthwhile without all these events in our lives. I truly hate the cliche that says ‘everything happens for a reason’ (really hate it) but it’s true.  I am not the most religious person, at all, but I do know that the Big Man above knows it all. So while the EPT stick only relates to figuring out whether a reckless moment can lead to baby cries (laughter) or not, everything else in life is figured out by simply living it. No pee on a stick to determine the outcome right away.  This means  we do have a choice to not let it become who we are and just take it for what it is – a bump on the road we  managed to overcome.