Rise Up

I read this article “Every Day Can’t Be The Best Day.”at let’s say a very much needed time. It’s been one of those days where I’ve woken up and it’s been bad news, after bad news, after more bad news. You know the whole “when it rains, it pours” – my kinda day today.

Still and not just because it is a new year, I am really trying to hone in on the positive and shed off the negative – even in situations where it tries to take you in. The reason for this? I am not mary f***king sunshine at all but I can’t live life like Debbie Downer either thinking “that’s my luck” or “of course, that happens to me!”. While sometimes things just happens, we also need to own up to our mistakes, all of them. We can’t be above them or get cocky and think “hey it won’t happen to me again” because guess what? That’s when life decides to bite you in the same place it did first time and remind you the reason mistakes happen… is to learn. If we choose not to, it’s inevitable: IT WILL HAPPEN AGAIN.

That being said I can admit some of my mistakes bit me once or twice for thinking I was invincible or above it. In time I have learn and become a much more humble person. At the same time, it is also about not being so damn hard on yourself. That part is hard. As human beings, it is our nature to sometimes be our worst critics and cheerleaders. Why? Because it is much easier to believe the bad than good. Because bad can be easy and good can be so much harder. Still if we get stuck in that mentality, that is where we will be all of our lives.

I think the past year was in a way a revelation to me. In many ways I learned a lot about myself, my perception of others and of life and most of all how I dealt with some situations. I can tell you a lot of it made me cringe a bit. I let certain situations and people get the best of me and allow the kind of judgment that can be so spiteful. Still it taught me a lot. Because that is what bad situations do, they teach you how to be better and stronger. I learn that while it is important to make others happy, you really need to put yourself first. No one else will. And bottom line: if you are not happy with yourself, then how can you make others happy? That is the truth, baby Ruth. To reach the kind of self-fulfillment we are each looking for, we sometimes have to be selfish. I don’t know if Maslow will agree or not (I personally think he would) but there is nothing wrong with wanting certain dreams and aspirations for yourself. No matter how silly they may seem. And that is just to other people who are not you or simply always look at the glass half empty.

So while I would like to end this blog with some amazing words of encouragement for this upcoming year all I can say is make it about you. Don’t let your mistakes dictate who you are but just be a part of you and move on. Be humble because in this world today there are too many egos and not enough humility. Most of all, focus and invest in yourself. It will attract like minded people who also want to invest in you.

That’s all folks.

The “Visualization”

For most people, it all started out with the famous book, The Secret. It stressed on the importance of visualizing your future – the dream board. Corny? Yes. But it works. Everyone knows that it is human nature to need constant visualization of your goals. It serves as a daily reminder of future goals, no matter how big or small.

I’m not any different than most. I read the book and thought – genius. Even more than anything, I believe in the Laws of Attraction. If you constantly believe in the good and attract good vibes as well as give them out, I think that you welcome positivism. As oppose to those other people, the ones one the dark side who always see the glass half empty and when someone else is doing good, their immediate response or reaction is only to compare or belittle. As much as times we can’t help but maybe feel a little jealousy (again we are all humans here, right?), it is important to always be happy and wish others well. Hey they’re  just like you, with the same amount of hours in a day to make it happen.

More and more, I realize how having a visual of the things you want helps you to work that much harder for it and not lose sight. I will say that as time passes I’ve had to unpin a few and add a few. That’s life, as time passes, the things that really matter or you truly want change with age.

So print it, cut it, visualize it and go for it.