Sweet Dreams

The other day while at a wedding one of my best friends since childhood sent me a text that totally threw me off guard. It really just knocked the breath out of me. I don’t talk about him a lot but it was about my dad.

In her text, she told me how she debated whether to tell me not knowing how it would affect me but decided to anyway. She had this dream where she saw my dad. She said she remember so vividly what he was wearing down to his jeans and tee shirt. She said he was in an office type environment and they were sitting next to each other. My friend told me they shook hands and she proceeded to ask about my mom to which he pointed in the opposite direction from his. She told him she would mention it to me that she saw me to which he simply reply to her, “Just tell her I’m fine”.

Close scene. After that she drew a blank. Crazy how a lot of my close friends have all had similar dreams about my dad. Common part in all of them is he telling them to let me know he is okay. I miss him everyday. Some days even a little more than others. I miss calling out to him and how much effort he would put into teaching me new things. My mom and him while alike were different and I like to think my dad and I had a special father/daughter relationship. One I miss every single day and probably always will. Still, hearing about a dream like that brings a bittersweet feeling.

Friends with Intuition

We all have our group of friends, some of which we are particularly more close to than others. Everyone has that one friend that without saying a word, seems to just know what to say or do, or even know the right time and ask you randomly if you need to hang out. In the past two days, I have encountered two of my best friends who without really knowing, have fulfilled their friend duties in doing little things to make me feel better. While I don’t talk to people about my love life a lot, it is no secret that it isn’t exactly one that leads to marriage or even the kind to be on a road of planning a trip together. In other words, I was basically in a “serious” relationship that has no aspiration of reaching long term status. I guess my vibe has definitely been a little down and out and my friends took notice to it.

Still as open as I can be, I am not an open book with a lot of my personal relationships to my friends, I do the whole “everything’s fine” or “we are great friends”. Sometimes I may be telling a little white lie. Other times, I simply want to avoid unsolicited advice. It made me think, while right now I am kind of mourning a lost relationship and friendship, friends are definitely a girl’s best accessory. If you let them, you realized that a lot of them won’t judge you or even your significant others for your mistakes but simply want to see you be happy. Especially those who are in healthy relationships. I never realized that until recently but when you surround yourself with friends who have a growing, positive, loving relationship… well, it makes it clear to you that it is the kind of thing you also would want for yourself. I guess I can say I am feeling very thankful to be able to open up about certain things to some of my closest friends throughout the years… and then start the grueling process of moving on. Especially when life seems to keep pushing you in that direction.

The “Visualization”

For most people, it all started out with the famous book, The Secret. It stressed on the importance of visualizing your future – the dream board. Corny? Yes. But it works. Everyone knows that it is human nature to need constant visualization of your goals. It serves as a daily reminder of future goals, no matter how big or small.

I’m not any different than most. I read the book and thought – genius. Even more than anything, I believe in the Laws of Attraction. If you constantly believe in the good and attract good vibes as well as give them out, I think that you welcome positivism. As oppose to those other people, the ones one the dark side who always see the glass half empty and when someone else is doing good, their immediate response or reaction is only to compare or belittle. As much as times we can’t help but maybe feel a little jealousy (again we are all humans here, right?), it is important to always be happy and wish others well. Hey they’re  just like you, with the same amount of hours in a day to make it happen.

More and more, I realize how having a visual of the things you want helps you to work that much harder for it and not lose sight. I will say that as time passes I’ve had to unpin a few and add a few. That’s life, as time passes, the things that really matter or you truly want change with age.

So print it, cut it, visualize it and go for it.