Alright so where am I from my depressing post last week? Definitely in a different place. If time heals all wounds and helps you think clearly then I am approaching just that.
“I cannot tell a lie…” like the famous George Washington said, I still miss my ex. Even so, I am in a much better place and I can feel it. I am starting to feel good about certain things in my life and things I want for myself despite the whole feeling of missing him. To sit here and say I don’t would be complete bull. Still, I have had sort of a cool week. I have been able to focus and work on so much that I might have not done in the past or put aside. In addition, yes this is a cliche, I am going to the gym and working on taking some classes. Hey, if you are going to go through something tough like a break up why not put some of that juice to good use. You know the saying, life gives you lemons make lemonade or maybe a margarita? LOL wow I am full of the cheesy one liners today. Even on the drinking note, I have been the sober one for some time now, more so just to be able to have my head on straight and not let my thoughts get the best of me. Being a homebody has its perks where you can just feel how you do and no one can tell you other wise. Once I started to shed some of that and look forward, I have been getting excited about different things. I mean things I did not even realize I wanted. Possibilities I did not realize I had.
Why? It is not all due to the break up but maybe who you were in a certain relationship. Me, for instance, I was someone who didn’t know was putting a lot of plans and opportunities on hold because I wanted my significant other to catch up not really knowing what it meant that he is just in a whole different place and space. Any who back to me, being on my own comes with a certain freedom I never took into consideration. I saw it as a bad thing when it is anything but that. I am starting to see how much I wanted to do just for myself. See that is the thing about relationships… if you get lost in them in an unhealthy way, you lose a sense of who you are and become your own obstacle.
So where am I now? I am a work in progress. I am enjoying my newfound freedom and everything that comes with it. Aaaah but with this also comes responsibility. I am responsible to no one but myself to find my own happiness and sense of self-fulfillment.
That’s my post break up wanna be Gandhi rant for now.