Alright here I go again relating to yet another movie but I can’t help it. It made me think of a similar situation. Once upon a time a while ago I was incredibly and utterly obsessed with this guy. Hmmm… let me rephrase that, I was obsessed with the IDEA of who this guy could be. It took me a while to figure out that it was just a romance.
In the movie Last Night with Keira Knightley, her character bumps into an old flame whom she always loved but as life tends to turn out, she was already happily married with a great guy (ehhh watch the movie). Her character definitely highlighted on a certain aspect of the relationship that seem to have resonated with me. For such a long time, I thought me and this so called flame were meant to be or had some sappy, hopeless notion that everything we went through happened in order to push us together. Not exactly. He was just one of those people who came into my life temporarily to teach me something. Sadly, I didn’t really know what the lesson was at the time or I did and I was just blindsided by my own yearning to want it to be more. I never actually admitted it out loud but when I heard one of the characters in the movie speaking about it I couldn’t help but replay the memory reel. Basically this kind of romance is the one that is amazing and overwhelming when it happens, but the truth of the matter is that myself and this “love” of mine never did actually spend more than one hundred days together. I don’t even think our days together would add up to a whole month. It was just one of those. It went further into another aspect of our on and off romance (I use to call it a relationship) being that we were great in that single moment. In real life, it seem it was always destined to have an expiration date. Back then, I couldn’t tell myself that… now I see that if we ever really tried (and we did), the both of us couldn’t really stand alone as a couple. It’s hard to explain but it’s like you need the whole “can’t be with each other but you should and it’s not going to happen” feeling. Again, I didn’t see it then but I learned a lot from this little so called romance… he actually opened up my eyes about other people in my life as well as how a man should actually treat a woman. Most of all, I will never forget the one phrase he used “do not dwell on the past”.
(Of course it had to be from The Notebook)
Granted we don’t talk to each other anymore and it didn’t happen in a bad way, it just did. We died out. I think we simultaneously realized that it was time to let it go. Of course I hear about him from time to time, I wish him well and I am actually happy for the guy. Still the moral of this post if anyone does read it, is that sometimes people come into your life for a bit and it may seem that they stayed for a while but after that purpose is fulfilled, it is okay to let them go. You can’t take everything in life personal even when it appears to be, it has a funny way of working out. That and most of all, and this is something A LOT of girls tend to do, do not dwell on one failed romance and make it the reoccurring foundation when meeting new people in your life.
In the words of the awesome Alanis Morissette, “you live, you learn, you love, you learn“.
Tags: Experiences, Last Night, Learn, life, Live, love, Old Flames, relationships, Romance