It’s been a while since I sat down and write a little about what’s going on with me, just let it out into the world.
Let’s see… since my heartbreaking break-up (oxymoron I know) I have been focusing a lot on myself (and how cliche). This means I have to look down deep inside into all the nitty gritty stuff I haven’t wanted to face in a while because let’s face it, I was kinda sorta in denial. Okay no I was.
Post break-up has been enlightening. It pushed me to look at other areas of my life that needed some looking into for a while now. Sometimes when relationships don’t work they open up that door or turn on that light to the other relationship; I am talking about that relationship you have with yourself. This is what I did. I won’t go into all the details just yet but sometimes you need to really work on putting these little things that bother you out there. I don’t mean blogging I mean like really learning to let go of it instead of dwelling. I was dwelling for a while more than I was aware or if we are being honest, more than I care to admit. For instance, relationship wise I think for some time I knew mine with my ex was over. I kept wanting to make it work but did not realize I didn’t want to let go and admit what we had was broken and maybe not easy to repair. Other areas of my life, like family, I am coming to terms that I still miss my father and never really let myself grieve his passing. Years and years later I can FINALLY admit that. Career wise, I do not have it all figured out yet, actually not one hell of a bit. Right now I am okay with all of this because I am finally admitting it and instead of sitting there and comparing myself to others and where I am not I am just looking at it as “this is what it is”. Live through it and see what comes after instead of focusing so much on what isn’t there. What’s the point? It is not there!
So what am I doing now? I am facing life and all of this, dealing with each particular aspect day by day and in some strange way… loving and taking in every minute of it. Next move, I am going to be doing a little traveling. Get some worldly experience and just explore a little. Then I plan to come and figure out what I want the next step of my life to really be.
Each day at a time. Embracing every single second, minute, day as it comes and stop with the “why am I not where they are” or the “ugh if I didn’t do this, my life would be…” because at the end of the day, there is no point in dwelling something that ALREADY it happen. It happened – past tense. All I or anyone, in most cases, can do is be present.